by Corby Furrow
How many of us pride ourselves on 'keeping it together'? The ability to do this in specific circumstances is an asset - but when we do it daily, it becomes part of our routine. As we reinforce this behaviour by doing it over and over again, we eventually lose the awareness that we’re doing it and it becomes a ‘normal’ part of our life.
I recently was on a 4-hour flight home, from NeftTI’s DISCOVER the POWER of EFT professional training, when the lady beside me put her tray down and leaned forward resting her head between her hands, elbows on the tray, rubbing her forehead; she explained she had a migraine. I felt for her. How terrible to be 'keeping it together' through this pain for the next 4 hours.
I felt compelled to help, as I knew I could use my EFT training to relieve some of her symptoms. I went back and forth in my head if I should say something, if it was appropriate, I was desperately seeking for a sign to let me know if I should offer help, I even went as far as using my stone bracelet hoping it would work like a pendulum to give me a yes or no to my question. Finally, I was so compelled to help that I asked how bad her migraine was. I told her what I did and that if she was open to trying it may help her symptoms. She was very open. So we set about working on what was going on with her migraine. She found relief and she also found tears.
As we spoke, in those tears were her struggles of the past 5 years, her marriage had dissolved, she had lost a couple of jobs, was well educated but, couldn’t seem to find the right job. She had been in relationships but she keeps holding onto everyone else’s garbage and is in the middle of raising 3 children part time as a single mom. As if that’s not enough, at one point her health had deteriorated to the point of hospitalization. Her cortisol levels were through the roof (no wonder!) and most of all, she was exhausted. She felt stuck, running the same road and being detoured back onto the same route, over and over and over. She didn’t know how to get off that detour and onto a different road.
In her mind she was 'keeping it together'; and she was, but her body was paying the price. The body doesn’t want to store all of the crap we carry around as we 'keep it together'. It is toxic and 'keeping it together' at this level just keeps us stuck.
I’m happy that I decided to share with her how the wonderful use of Emotional Freedom Techniques gives us the option to safely and gently stop ‘keeping it together’. She was amazed at how it took her migraine away. The next day she emailed me saying she was still migraine free and even though she was still feeling emotional she felt more in control.
If you want to get off the detours that you are stuck on and find the green lights on your Road to Joy, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org . I will help you discover your possibilities so that 'keeping it together' returns to an asset you can occasionally use rather than a desperate habit that keeps you on the road to stress and suffering.