NeftTI DISCOVER Graduate, Karen Anderson Raymond, shares her experience of using EFT to cope with the loss of Tom Petty in October 2017
"Tom Petty's death hit me pretty hard and I used EFT last night to figure out why. It always amazes me what comes from a tapping session. I hope you find this helpful ...
I did a lot of tapping last night around the death of Tom Petty. I didn't know the guy, I wasn't even his number one fan, but I was really upset, to the point of tears, about his death.
I felt silly crying about someone I didn't even know. Part of me even felt like I didn't have the right to be all that emotional about his death - I mean, surely his family and friends are the ones who have earned the "right" to mourn?
Who was I to have such strong emotions about someone who did not even know that I existed?
This is where EFT came in. I was in enough distress to want to tap on my feelings and figure out the intensity of them.
When I tapped on the side of my hand, I completely accepted my intense feelings, no matter how much I didn't feel like I deserved to be feeling them, I even acknowledged how silly I felt for being so upset.
I began my tapping round focusing on my intense sadness of Tom Petty's passing, and just focused on feeling so sad and heavy hearted about the whole thing. "So sad, I just feel so sad and heavy about Tom Petty's death". Well, it didn't take long for the tears to start flowing. As I tapped on that sad feeling, a clear image of me as a teenager came into view. An image of me in the back of my parents green Dodge van.
I tell you folks, EFT is magic, but particularly magical when you can get as specific as possible, and man... was I able to get specific.
I remembered vividly sitting in the back of my parents van on a hot summer's day. We were travelling to our bi-annual camping trip (it was a tradition for us to go every two years). This particular year my brother and sister did not come with us, they were too old and had jobs.
I did not bring any friends because, well, I didn't really have any at that point in my life. My only friend was my yellow Sony Walkman and the mixed tapes I brought along with me.
I remembered listening to "American Girl" by Tom Petty over and over again, rewinding my tape at the risk of draining my batteries. I remembered listening to that song and closing my eyes and fantasizing about being, well, an American Girl. About being a blonde haired beauty, with cute freckles instead of pimples. Of having tanned limbs instead of pale ones that refused to take colour.
I fantasized about my crush, reciprocating my feelings for him, and feeling beautiful and popular and care free. My life was so the opposite of my day dreams at that time, I used that song to help me escape, just take a little vacation from my reality and pretend for three minutes and thirty-five seconds that everything was different.
As I tapped last night, I tapped for that sixteen year old me who felt so alone, so ugly and so awkward. The tears flowed as I acknowledged her pain and made peace with her ... and for her.
I tapped and thanked Tom Petty for the escape he offered me all those years ago, and also thanked him for his passing, which prompted me to make peace with part of my past that I thought I had accounted for.
I am so grateful for EFT/tapping for helping me bring peace to my life. I can't imagine going through life now without being able to recognize and reconcile triggers that disrupt my personal peace."
About Karen Anderson Raymond:
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