“To love someone is to learn the song in their heart and sing it to them when they have forgotten.”
often attributed to Arne Garborg
This quote has always spoken to me but recently it brought to mind something deeply personal.
When my son Kevin was born, I made up a lullaby just for him. It went like this:
Lullaby and good night to my awesome son Kevin.
Mommy loves you; Daddy loves you; God loves you too.
You’re such a special boy, I’m so glad that you’re you.
I thank God every day for bringing me you.
I set it to the familiar tune of Brahms’ Lullaby, that lovely melody that has soothed babies and parents alike for generations. It’s a tune many of us carry deep in our bodies, like a cellular blanket of safety. When I sang it, I wasn’t just offering comfort through words — I was embedding love, safety, and belonging into his nervous system, note by note.
And even now, all these years later, I still sing it. Not to him (he’s 34… and that would be a bit weird, ha!)
But I sing it for him. For me. For us.
I sing it into the field between us. Into the invisible energy of love and connection that continues to hold us both.
And I trust, deeply, that he feels it on some level. That it makes a difference.
And here’s the part I didn’t really get until I was writing this piece. It still affects me.
Every time I sing it, my own nervous system settles. My breath slows. My heart softens.
That act of sending love into the field isn’t just about giving — it’s also deeply receiving.
The field responds.
It echoes love back. It soothes both of us.
“When we sing into the field, the field also sings back to us.”
This is not just sentiment. It’s resonance.
When we sing, hum, or even think a familiar tune tied to love and safety, it vibrates through our nervous system.
It sends out signals — to our cells, to our field, and even to others — that we are connected, safe, and loved.
It’s energy medicine, pure and simple.
As Conscious EFT™ practitioners, this is what we do.
We learn the “song” in our clients’ hearts, the part that knows they are lovable, whole, and worthy, even if life has made them forget.
And when they lose touch with it, we gently hold the melody for them.
We sing it into the space between us. Into the field.
And that is no small thing.
That’s not technique. That’s love. That’s presence. That’s healing.
Just before you head off, would you take 90 seconds to experience this beautiful version of Brahms’ Lullaby by the incomparable Yo-Yo Ma. Breathe it in, let it wiggle its way into your cells. Place your hand on your heart. Bring someone you care about into your awareness; a client, a loved one, even a part of yourself.
Send that loving energy into the field between you.
Notice what happens in you.
This is your song of connection.
May the field hold you gently and your heart hum its own lullaby.
Nancy

