Before any intervention we offer… the client’s nervous system is already reading whether it is safe or not. A practitioner said something to me in a recent mentoring session that I hear often: ‘My client said they thought this was helping… and now it feels like it’s making things worse.’” If you’ve ever had that […]
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A pattern I see often in practice – something that seems to be helping suddenly starts to make things feel worse. Turns out that is a very precise signal from the nervous system about safety. There’s something important I want to name here, because it’s easy to miss. When we use tapping, or any intervention,
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You sit down to meditate… and instead of calm, you find everything else. For many people, meditation is introduced as a pathway to peace. A place where the mind quiets, the body softens, and a sense of stillness becomes accessible. And yet, when you actually try it, something very different can happen. The mind becomes
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A small pattern in my right knee turned out to be a quiet lesson in how intelligently living systems adapt. This simple story illustrates a central principle of The Map of Being Human: when safety increases, the body – and the nervous system – can reorganize in surprisingly elegant ways. In my last blog, where
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Many years ago, when I first wrote about emotional freedom, I was exploring a question many people ask when they discover EFT: What is emotional freedom—and how do I get some? It’s a beautiful question. And like most meaningful questions, the answer has deepened over time. When people first hear the phrase “emotional freedom,” they
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