For almost 40 years, I’ve been interested in a question: What are we missing? I’ve asked it through psychotherapy, coaching, neuroscience, energy psychology and EFT. And more than once, I’ve thought I’d finally found the missing piece. These days, I’m much less interested in finding the final answer. I’m more interested in asking: What else

What if feeling something deeply doesn’t mean we need to change it? When emotion becomes intense, it can be natural to assume that something needs our attention. That we need to regulate it, soften it, understand it or somehow help ourselves feel differently. But intensity alone doesn’t necessarily tell us what our living system needs.

Have you ever noticed an old response returning and immediately thought: Seriously? Is this still here? Maybe you become anxious in a familiar situation. You over-function. You shut down. You begin trying to please everyone, prove yourself, or get everything exactly right. And sometimes the hardest part isn’t even the response itself. It’s what comes

For at least six weeks, I’d been putting off an important phone call. It wasn’t a difficult call. I had the phone number. I knew exactly what I wanted to say. The whole conversation would probably take two minutes. And still, I wasn’t making it. It would have been easy to call this procrastination, avoidance,

In my last audio reflection, I shared what happened when my body delivered a very clear capacity signal during my recent Alaska cruise – and another, far more demanding voice immediately tried to override it. If you haven’t listened yet, it’s here. That experience left me curious about why respecting present-day capacity can be so