As a passionate trainer of therapists and coaches, I love how this quote emphasizes the importance of practitioners to continually explore and seek understanding, not only of their clients but also of the profound mysteries inherent in life and human existence.
Our greatest gift to our clients is our capacity to approach our work with a sense of wonder and awe, and a willingness to delve deeper into the uncertainties and complexities of human experience. Effective practitioners hold an energy of ‘not knowing’ alongside deep curiosity and compassion for a client’s unique experience of the world. Building the skill to ask Intentional questions is very important.
Today I’m sharing with you some highlights from a piece of our HARNESS the POWER of CONSCIOUS EFT™ certification program. It is taken from a lesson where we explore the foundational concepts of the CONSCIOUS EFT approach to supporting clients to create and sustain significant life transformation.
Although the idea of Curious Questions itself can be found elsewhere, here we’ll expand more powerfully with INTENTIONAL QUESTIONS.
A foundational concept of Conscious EFT is ensuring that the energy of intention is incorporated throughout our client work. Working with intentionality, with consciousness, directs the focus and energy of both practitioner and client toward the client’s specific desired outcome.
Intention is a guiding force that empowers the practitioner/client team to navigate challenges, make conscious choices, and ultimately support the client in shaping the trajectory of their life.
Asking a question isn’t just about seeking information; it’s a profound tool that can foster rapport, trust, and safety. When we pose a question, we convey care and respect for the other person, creating an emotional connection where they feel listened to and understood without judgment. Unfortunately, genuine questions and deep listening are often scarce in our worldly interactions, yet they are fundamental to every relationship, including the one between practitioner and client.
A well-crafted Intentional Question transcends mere information exchange; it can open doors to new insights and awareness for the client, tapping into unconscious information that fosters personal growth. Witnessing a client’s realization – the moment they say, “I’ve never thought about it this way before” – is truly beautiful.
Mastering the art of asking powerful questions is a skill well worth honing over time.
By learning to ask questions from the energy of our Social Engagement system, vibrating with calm, confidence, clarity, connection, curiosity, creativity, compassion and courage, we empower ourselves to transform our relationships with ourselves, loved ones, colleagues, and clients.
In essence, the intention behind an Intentional Question is to connect, not to control, correct or teach.
Within Conscious EFT™, Intentional Questions embody four key principles:
Beginner’s Mind: The questioner approaches without agenda or preconceived notions, allowing the client’s truth to unfold freely. There’s no attachment to a specific answer; all responses are honored.
Consideration of Nervous System Capacity: The questioner assesses the client’s current capacity to process the question, ensuring it’s not overwhelming to the nervous system at this current moment in time.
Relational Context: Questions are attuned to the moment and the practitioner-client relationship, arising naturally rather than feeling forced.
Client’s Well-being: The questioner prioritizes the client’s highest good, devoid of personal emotional needs or agendas.
In the realm of Intentional Questions, the goal isn’t just to inquire but to foster genuine connection and growth, embodying empathy and openness.
Stay tuned for the next installment, where we’ll explore the different forms of Intentional Questions in greater detail.
If you’d like to dip your toes into the waters of Conscious EFT, get started with our free 5-part Conscious EFT™ 101 video series that explores a unique, trauma-informed approach to EFT.